Trust Yourself Again

Rebuilding Confidence & Identity After Abuse

How Abuse Destroys Confidence & Self-Trust

Uncovering Your Power has chosen to empower survivors of abuse because we are an audience that is often overlooked. 

Talking about abuse isn’t sexy. It doesn’t trend, it’s not popular and it’s not a welcoming conversation at the dinner table. However, it is real and according to the CDC is impacting 2 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men, respectively. 

These occurrences have long-term effects on individuals, relationships, future relationships, children and families, the list goes on. 

Abuse—whether emotional, physical, or psychological—deeply impacts how survivors view themselves. Many survivors of abuse struggle with low self-esteem, chronic self-doubt, and fear of making decisions.

This makes finding true independence nearly impossible. 

If you've ever felt stuck, afraid of failure, or unsure of your ability to build a better life, you are not alone. 

Abuse creates patterns that lead you to:

• Doubt your instincts – You’ve been told you’re wrong so much you start to second-guess yourself.  

• Fear making decisions – Mistakes seem like an everyday occurrence so you shy away from making choices altogether. 

• Feel unworthy of success – All of the times that you were put down made you feel like you don’t deserve to be happy. 

• Struggle with independence – Your life was controlled in such a way, you don’t remember how to live alone and it feels too overwhelming. 

This lack of self-trust becomes the biggest roadblock to financial stability, healthy relationships, and personal growth.

If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you confidently take control of your future?

How to Rebuild Confidence & Trust Yourself Again

You can heal. It is a very real possibility that will require some effort from you. 

I believe in you!

Here are some ways that you can start. Don’t overwhelm yourself, try them one at a time if you need to.

Prove to Yourself That You Can Make Good Decisions

I know that it’s hard to trust your own judgment at such a sensitive time and that’s okay:

Start with small wins.

• Decide on one simple thing that you want to stick to. A morning routine of your choice is a great start. Journaling, stretching, praying, reading, walking, etc. The sky is the limit. 

• Make one small financial decision (i.e. I’m going to start saving $10 a week, I’m going to stop spending my money on online apps, I’m going to open a checking account, etc.)

• Think about you past decisions that turned out great (you’ve made good decisions before - I promise, you can do it again).

Taking these steps is very important to healing. Every time you make a choice and stick to it, you rewire your brain to believe in yourself again.

Challenge Negative Thoughts & Reframe Self-Doubt

Self-doubt is a learned response.

You can unlearn it.

We will use affirmations and replace negative self-talk to achieve this. 

Instead of: “What if I fail?”

Say: “Every step forward teaches me something good.”

Instead of: “I’m not good enough.”

Say: “I am learning, growing, and becoming stronger every day.”

This activity takes mindfulness. You need to be aware when negative thoughts come into your mind. You must immediately begin to repeat to yourself your new affirmations that will one day turn into your deeply embedded beliefs. 

Trust me, this works. 

Take Control of Your Finances & Future

Financial independence is something so many of us struggle with, whether we’ve been in an abusive relationship or not. Learning to properly manage your money empowers you to improve your life and have more freedom in the long run. 

• Open your own bank account (if you don’t already have one). If you already have a checking account, save enough money to open a savings account. 

• Create a simple budget and start tracking your expenses. 

• Evaluate your spending weekly or monthly, where you can make changes that benefit you?

• Learn about credit, savings, and financial planning. Watch videos, read articles, or speak with a specialist in a free consultation. 

Why this matters: The more financially independent you become, the more control you gain over your life.

Rediscover Who You Are

Reclaim your personal identity. Don’t let your past take it away from you. 

• Try something new—something you already love or always wanted to do.

• If you have a hard time deciding, journal a list of things that make you excited and go from there. 

• Ask yourself: Who am I when no one is watching or telling me what to do? 

Reconnecting with yourself is a huge key in rebuilding your confidence.

Find Supportive People 

Healing doesn’t have to be done alone! Find people who support and elevate you. 

People who:

• Encourage your personal growth

• Celebrate your wins (even the small ones)

• Believe in your potential

On the other hand, start distancing yourself from people who do the opposite. If certain people make you feel small, guilty, or unsure of yourself, set stronger boundaries or limit their access to you.

Your Confidence & Power Are Not Lost!

Be empowered!

They are still inside of you. You just have to find them. And don’t worry, if you’ve never had confidence, it can be built!  Leaving an abusive relationship is just the first step. Rebuilding confidence and trust in yourself are the next steps in your beautiful journey. It is the key to creating a stable, successful, and fulfilling life.

You are not broken. You are not powerless. You are not incapable. 

Say this with me: I am whole. I am complete. I have everything that I need. I am empowered. 

I AM capable!

Get Your Free Guide: The Self-Mastery Guide - Reclaiming Your Confidence

Want a step-by-step roadmap to reclaiming your confidence, financial stability, and personal power?

• Download the Self-Mastery Reclaiming Your Confidence Workbook to help you begin the process of healing. 

If you need additional support, reach out to us. The Self-Mastery program is specifically made for survivors like you who want healing, increased confidence, and financial growth. We’d love to help empower your journey!